Interview topics: Understanding holiday syndrome - fear of holiday do you?
Interview guests: Psychology Department of Beijing Forestry University, doctorate in clinical psychology Zhu Jianjun
Interview Time: September 28, 2007 15:15 P M ~ 16:00
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Moderator: Sohu users Hello everybody, here is the interview between Sohu health, I'm your host plateau. Today is September 28, there is a two-day National Day Day, National Day provides us with a 7-day holiday, is to make people have a time to relax and rest, this in itself is a pleasant thing, but I found some people around the holidays have started to fear They have a psychological burden that holiday, what holiday is what we bring negative feelings, how can we achieve true holiday purpose of physical and mental pleasure, which is the subject of today's interview. First of all introduce the guest sitting next to me is from Beijing Forestry University, Psychology Department, clinical psychology teacher, Dr. Zhu Jianjun, Zhu teacher Hello.
Zhu Jianjun: Hello, Hello everybody, I think that this remark has been host to see me, it seems that I was alluding to feel terrible during the holiday people, in fact I am not, I was a psychologist, both the terror, there are ways to adjust. I introduce myself as another, I In this capacity, because the magazine itself is about mental health, particularly in life about how to maintain mental health, and eleven state holidays, how to maintain this life, mental health, but also has a relationship with this.
Moderator: So we enter Today, the topic of interviews, I would like to ask Zhu eleven teachers how your organization?
Zhu Jianjun: So you just says that, I am guilty. because of my own arrangements for holiday really is not the most healthy, because I have work, I will do a training course at this time, when I vacation every year, because people can not leave other times, only this time can take time off to participate in psychological training, so often to give lectures at this time.
Moderator: equal to your holiday spent in the busy. We gathered some friends on the network view of the holiday, the holiday was the ideal state is described as five words, lazy, comfortable, free, carnival, and do whatever they want. Will Zhu, a teacher at the five ideal state, which is a little healthier for?
Zhu Jianjun: These are words we understand will be different, such as the users do whatever they say, is certainly not true, if you want to rob a bank certainly is not enough, must be representative of their normal lives. that the feast should be lazy, must is usually very hard, now very comfortable, and certainly not usually comfortable, and now need to be free, must be common enough freedom. hard to say which word is healthy, unhealthy word which is the key level, to a certain extent so that their lazy, good, is the rest, if the seven were sleeping, then apply the Westward Journey is the Person: I personally think it is comfortable. How can we achieve that comfortable way to the state?
Zhu Jianjun: The first idea is that each person has their own way, this way one is concerned with the living conditions, that is usually what way. because the festival should be marked with the place usually has the opposite is usually how, this time to the contrary, can play a balancing role in our body and mind. Why are we called the holiday, holidays this word has two meanings, one is true or false , the ancient meaning of the holiday or something by coming. We take this a few days time for us to do some things with not the same as usual, and then to balance yourself. From this perspective, if the usual way is very busy , leave must not allow ourselves to be busy,Discount UGG boots, even if it is busy playing is bad, if normal life is too dull, then you need to be more intense festival some more to rave about, it should be different with the usual. < br> Another point concerned with the character, and some people are more inclined to shy personality, and if the festival, for example, some of the hard to find their own activities too intense, too extroverted activities, for example, to disco, with many people to crowded places to play, but would not achieve a good effect, if the outgoing person every day, stay at home to sleep, can not stand, it depends on personality. with the usual state, with the personality are taken into account, you can choose more activities for their own kind.
Moderator: I just mentioned from the holidays approach should distinguish between personal status and character. We also divided the three categories of people, such as single family, two world and three homes, The three people in November, specifically how to do in the holiday? have any good ideas? such as singles?
Zhu Jianjun: Single family the most liberal, how is free through the holidays, including just the way that can, for example take a little time to rest, seven-day holiday if certainly not all sleep in the past, because psychology is a saying, good or bad effects on the mental state, a person is when lack of sleep, mental state is not good, easy irritability, irritability, easy fatigue, prone to depression.
Moderator: I have many colleagues who are single, some people at home in the field may choose to go home to visit his parents, there are still some people because a variety of reasons to stay in Beijing, they may have a lonely feeling, how you feel this loneliness to overcome, how to overcome him?
Zhu Jianjun: If you compare the partial character of the people themselves within it, this loneliness stronger Some people will think that seven days is not particularly lonely, sleeping for two days sleep, the other five days of reading books, listening to music, doing something you enjoy on it, if the partial outgoing person feel loneliness, should find a friend, a number of activities to do together. You can do a lot of activities, such as you can go to the ready-made piece of entertainment activities, such as watching movies, singing, karaoke OK, bars, travel and so on. But I think from a psychological recovery , so that he can rest in seven days, the better physical and mental recovery point of view, but these regular activities is not the best. Instead, the best activity with some like-minded friends to do some very different things, some of new activities that may not previously done, for example, have not played pottery, ceramics play, you can tell a friend to learn a little piece of musical instruments, sing opera, hanging a hanging shadow, etc., you do not need really learned, just seven days to do something special, very special thing, usually do not do, and we do together. people have a characteristic, I do not know the person with a made a not familiar with the matter, When you do things that are familiar with the future, you will be with this person itself a very intimate feeling. This can be overcome loneliness. of course I do with a person familiar with an unfamiliar things better able to overcome loneliness .
Moderator: We look to the second class is that two of the world, they may be able to use vacation for their feelings, because the work is usually very busy.
Zhu Jianjun: Yes, two of the world can work together Like to do the same thing, first, the things I want both of them enjoyed, can not be said for seven days, I like to do the things that he likes something, like I like to watch football, get to watch football, or she like to watch Korean dramas so that the two people watching. If two unrelated people have a special hobby, the best way to compromise, which would you do this, I shop and go to that, as far as possible stay in a room, everybody is all dry, which is , and let everyone meet your own needs, but also a little time to meet our common needs, two people must do something together, like two people. It also requires creativity, I often say yes Life must be hard, tired, that not the same. that time is a mindless play mindless enjoyment, you can think that the new method, we have a manuscript magazine, there are two couples wish to bury their own buried in the ground, to one year after dug to go in, it is particularly creative activities, so that two people in this process is particularly intimate feeling.
Moderator: That two of the world can do something like the two sides can be memorable things, to create some romantic atmosphere.
Zhu Jianjun: Yes, must be special. As you engage in journalism, must be something special that is news. If you want to remember or two together to remember each other, we must the same as the special nature of news.
Moderator: interview released before users notice a message behind that eleven holidays approaching, you will find it particularly want to quarrel with her husband, how to do this?
Zhu Jianjun: I know, this is usually no time to quarrel, go to vent about the holidays. We certainly do not advocate quarrel, finally have a holiday, we fight Why bother. I know this person, a busy up and wanted to fight, the fight Not only quarrel with her husband, but also give vent to their normal savings to other psychological pressure. In order to fight is not damaging, at least do two things. First, the fight to limit, I was so long, after this time, her husband has the right ignore you or leave you, you should continue to be noisy, can be leaked to the streets, time to say good, you are guaranteed not to lose control. The second lay hints, such as you can ahead of time with her husband, I usually have some dissatisfaction, usually dare not speak out is not willing to say it, and now a holiday, chances may be a noisy quarrel. this time her husband to know two things, not bad the first fight, the second husband know that not all directed at him, and sometimes the pressure eased, so that her husband more acceptable.
Moderator: The third category of people is a family of three and have elderly parents to care for family, they are usually little chance of meeting, at a time when, probably around a family in a room This group of people, you have any advice for them? they may arise because of some small friction reunion.
Zhu Jianjun: sometimes the case, have been together is a good thing, all together, may be normal rarely meet, but not used to how to communicate, but will have some conflicts, this is yes. But the Chinese have the means, for example special emphasis on the Chinese people eat, it makes sense, because the food is the easiest way to a people get together with the activities reflect the family atmosphere. You can find a good place to eat with everyone, or that you like the traditional way of example, few people now do their own dumplings, dumplings or not, other meals do. The trouble that though,UGG boots, now that I did not love, I feel too much trouble, and now very convenient to eat. But there is a process to take this opportunity to communicate with family members? a holiday we all like to watch TV, in fact, I do not think advertising network to you, not as good as watching TV online. because people do not watch TV to communicate with each other, a family of three people who watch TV with the TV is actually a family of three exchanges, of course, as I said, the Internet does not mean that the three individuals hold three computers, all on the net, so there is no exchange. For example, I look at some of what on the Internet, but do not play games on it. kids occasionally play a game, but also limit, to see what , there is news, we a chat, chat itself is more than the family of communication well.
Moderator: This three groups finished, we look for specific users a message, in an interview before the assembly some users feel on a long break, which some people think a long break before, I feel particularly uncomfortable. such as a user said, I fear, long enough to fear a long vacation and doing nothing, one to a long vacation, and I especially alone, many unbearable memories will surface in front of me, I will feel lonely and vulnerable, such users should be how to do?
Zhu Jianjun: you said in fact two types of people, I say something, respectively. This person, I hear it in the past must have painful memories, in fact, busy with work, let him forget this thing, this is a person one way to avoid negative emotions, such as I get very bad things, like my very painful disappointment in love, so that my busy, temporarily forget about the pain, so wanted to leave again. this specific people, or think of ways to really solve the pain, otherwise it can not let go he has been busy, has to escape, fled to the day the head, and tiring. I might go to his proposal, if not a big thing, to read psychology books or read psychology magazines, really like this, sometimes you talk with some possible do similar things, you see how others like to solve, the more popular reading psychology books or magazines, then made it very popular, suddenly inspired, his past knot to untie. of this people, if his heart was heavy, simply is a very serious injury, you need to find a counselor to help you adjust the better.
there are such people, some are reluctant to leave, a holiday to do nothing, do not want to be retired and sit and uncomfortable. This is another case of people, like running, running about twenty thousand meters, just one came to a stop, if stopped too quickly would be very uncomfortable, need to jog or two. This is the same person, the first one or two days in the holiday, you need to do some small activities, like running after jogging a few steps after ten thousand meters, four, five slowly the past few days to rest, to six seventy-two days do just a little, looking to do a certain thing to do, it may be better off.
users: a period of time before the holiday will feel out of shape, not knowing what each day thinking?
Zhu Jianjun : In fact, thinking about holiday.
users: After a holiday but do not know what to do?
Moderator: We sometimes have this feeling, especially at a loss, soon to be on holiday, a holiday does not know what to do, these What days are not in the mood. how do you think this regulation?
Zhu Jianjun: In fact, things are not regulated, but to learn things. life is to learn, let us also feel happy to learn. If he does not know what to do things, which shows that he did not intend what his own unique hobbies, I have always felt a person must have its own unique hobbies, whether it is any one thing, you can play art, completely without play fine, you can play bad, just as playing musical instruments, people would say I make noise, I went to play the violin, people say I saw the wood, it does not matter, I can cut, even if do not like to hear. or do some small production, Some people will engage in some small collection, this kind of thing can bring a lot of happiness to their own.
Moderator: more training is usually some of my hobbies.
Zhu Jianjun: not a lot of training one or two unique hobby.
Moderator: When the holiday can be used together.
users: up for work early in the morning every day, every day is a particularly busy life, the seven-day holiday coming suddenly made me feel The loss, how to overcome this feeling of loss?
Zhu Jianjun: almost feel like the above. I suggest that you read on holiday. We the Internet, of course, is not it that the Internet is not good, but we should read, because some of the books usually so busy that no less than quiet heart to read, for the holidays stop and read some classic works, not a big thick classic, is a novel look better.
Moderator: Is not read a negative emotional novels?
Zhu Jianjun: general we in the mental health perspective, if the mood is positive in itself, should read positive stories, not let a bad mood to bother you, if your own feelings are negative, all of a sudden allows you to read very positive, in fact you can not stand, you will feel like out of tune with their feelings, if their mood is very negative, then he should read a mood than a little to be positive,UGG bailey button, but also a little negative novel.
Moderator: If you read the novel a particularly tragic that he cried after reading how to do?
Zhu Jianjun: If you had a negative mood, reading a tragic novel, angered their big cry, from the perspective of mental health is good, is released, is the vent. did I want to cry, cry, and now a sad thing to see someone cry out, so my own sorrow, their unpleasant the release went out, this is a good thing.
Moderator: Is not able to do with reading about things like we can also see some classic movies?
Zhu Jianjun: Yes, including listening to music, listening to Some good music, this is quite good.
Moderator: That said, the feelings of the people before the holiday, after a holiday feel that more people may be more evident in some, they may show that mental and physical exhaustion and spiritual slack, mind and body tired very easy to understand, a fierce fits of overzealous holiday. One user said a few days after every holiday, before going to work soon, I feel a headache, lack of concentration, the real work, when drowsy during the day time work, particularly want to go back state before the holiday.
Zhu Jianjun: just right, tired, in fact, is simply tired from the body and restore quickly, absolutely do not need seven days, unless previously exhausted, as Premier Zhou Enlai as better tomorrow, seven days recovery However, the average person would not be so, may be crazy fits of overzealous, not how to do after the holidays, but holidays should pay attention to, can not allow ourselves to that level of play.
Moderator: We also played through the early vaccination, holidays into how to do, to avoid such a state generated after a holiday.
Zhu Jianjun: You have to relax, be free to do some fun things, do not say whatever they want, at least to themselves to relax a little, it is possible, but must be appropriate. The reason is about to go to work when there is such a headache, not into the state of feeling, or heart there is a rejection, it is because do not want to work, how they work, and this with the kids, we do not want to kindergarten, with I do not believe that school pupils have the same mentality. There is a very simple way, what I often say that a person should not regard themselves as a person, but should we as several people inside your heart there is a child, you imagine you have in mind a child, that once their children to go to work, the Special bother, I do not work, do not go to school, do not go to kindergarten to continue to play. this time, your mind can imagine an adult, you are such a big Now imagine you are going so much about how to convince the child.
Zhu Jianjun: The first can not be too indulgent, and the second can not be too strict, can not say to your child, be good to go to work, but should tell him with a mild way , do you have time to rest, but after a break, we should go to work, everyone should be like this, like coaxing a child to make him understand such things. so after the finish of their own hearts, will find him headache, trouble will reduce a lot more easily into the state.
Moderator: That is not willing to work on their own ideas into it. The following users is the case, he said finally adapted to the holiday lazy life of a busy working life began in the morning alarm clock for a long time do not want to get up, take the idea of resignation to go to work.
Zhu Jianjun: too impulsive to for this to resign.
chair people: is there such a person.
Zhu Jianjun: There is this idea very normal, and one is just now said that the need for self-persuasion, the other is prepared to do the first day, that is, the day before should be allowed to work within their own was a little earlier, of course, he would want to do I lose out, in front of why up so early? In fact, early adjustment to the clock would be more comfortable. like when a small school, with 8:00 to go to school if the card, starting at 7:20, get up and go schools, that there is no surplus, but sleepy tired, slightly up early a little, 20 minutes, look 20 minutes less sleep, but when school is not so sleepy and tired, more energy. If you tune about a day in advance, should get up, one day before a holiday the day much earlier than, later than the time to work some time in the middle to find himself awakened by the alarm the next day, awakened by the alarm time, will adapt much more.
Moderator: He referred to the issue of resignation, some people may really have to leave the unit after the holiday, is not in the holiday period should own a good career?
Zhu Jianjun: After careful consideration the resignation of their own choice, can not be emotional moment, not happy today, went to his resignation. This will be the result of the resignation is often not very good, impulse, and finally resignation that perhaps this should not be. need to carefully consider in advance. If, if at holiday period, taking advantage of the more relaxed time, to think their own is good. to make this big decision, in our view of the psychologist, there is a particularly good way, most people probably can not do is analyze before making a decision at the time you do dream, as dreams sometimes give you the hint, tell you that the speech or should not resign, the dream of suggesting more often than your own thoughts more far-sighted consciousness.
Moderator: You did such a story? He dreamed of what?
Zhu Jianjun: I can not remember all the circumstances of the dream, for example, change a man dreaming that he is now one of the car, what car he'd like a change, buy a new car, in a dream the merits of comparing the two cars, woke up the merits of the two work, we look to him in a dream final proposal is a good change or not change is good, you know resign or not resign is good good. this needs analysis, needs analysis techniques, need to understand a little basic knowledge of psychology. Most people have a chance, you can look at the psychology books.
Moderator: We also see that usually the contents of the book relatively easy to see some okay?
Zhu Jianjun: Psychology books are very easy.
Moderator: do not understand people may feel that something is academic.
Zhu Jianjun: also Some people write very academic, but there are a lot of psychology is very easy to write.
users: how to arrange holidays only happiness What is happiness?
Zhu Jianjun: A big problem, what is happiness? this is not who gives a perfect definition, in psychology, compared to well-being and happiness, happiness is a very simple emotion, I said I'm happy that I'm happy, I'm happy, so emotional, and well-being and refers to the was not necessarily the mood is more long-term status, I said I now live a happy life, does not mean I'm happy every day, and sometimes a little temper, trouble, trouble is because I am a little temper, others can bear with me, I feel more happy, more happy is rewarding. holiday how to let their increased sense of happiness is to take what you want now able to give you the most satisfaction, I think first one thing you can think, in your previous life, right? what will give him greater satisfaction, often with the relationship between childhood particularly, he can think about in his childhood his most satisfying thing is, what is the best thing is not satisfied, you can do some of the same sense as adults back to childhood, when his childhood love to do some things to do.
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